Technically, a vow is a promise. But you will find that typical wedding vows include two types
of statements which explain why you love each other, and the promises you wish to declare.
From here on it we’ll refer to these as:
- “I Love You Because…” (ILYB)
- “I Promise To…” (Promises)
PROMISE STARTERS
The promises you wish to declare. These ain’t a new year’s resolution. These are promises
for life. Keep ‘em real!
- I will always give you…
- I promise to treat you…
- I vow to tell you…
- I promise to love you…
- I promise to respect you…
- I promise to laugh at…
- I’ll remember to…
- I’ll keep…
- I promise to be…
- I will never…
- I promise to always encourage…
- I promise that we’ll…
- I vow to…
- I’ll always…
- Together, we’ll…
- When you’re up, I’ll…
- When you’re down, I’ll…
- Our future will bring us…
ILYB STARTERS
I love you because….
This is your opportunity to make them feel super loved and amazing in front of their family
and friends – tell them why you want to marry them!
- You make me…
- You give me…
- Because of you, I see the world…
- Life is better infinitely better with you in it because…
- I love the way you…
- I’m so lucky because…
- You support me by…
- I’m proud of…
- Your smile makes me…
- I admire…
- You’ve taught me…
- I look forward to…
- I’m crazy about…
- I value your…
- I can’t believe that…
- The first time I saw you, I…
- I realised I loved you when…
- We share…
HOW DO WE STRUCTURE THEM?
You don’t both have to have your vows in the same format, but it does help in keeping them
consistent so that one person isn’t reciting a novel while the other is done and dusted in two
sentences. You might like to agree to each write the same amount of Promises to each other
and the same amount of ILYBs. Also, you might consider giving yourself a word count, say
200 words max. That way, you know you’ll both have vows similar in length. Whatever the
format, if you both do something similar, you’ll be fine.
