GOT WRITER’S BLOCK?
I know it’s hard. It might feel like nothing you can come up with will be special enough, ‘big’
enough. You might not be keen about public speaking, and the thought of sharing your
innermost feelings might be giving you stage-fright. I reckon I am rather good at this stuff (I
should be right?!) but the thought of writing personal vows to my husband (again) instils a
little fear in the pit of my stomach. Trying to find the perfect balance of funny, authentic, and
meaningful is so tricky. I’m here to make it easier for you.
A few things to take the pressure off before we get started:
- Trust me, everyone finds this bit hard.
- Being reluctant to write your vows doesn’t mean you don’t love the person you’re
- marrying!
- It might seem daunting, but you really can do no wrong. Everyone is on your team
- when you’re reading out your vows.
- There are no rules.
- Words can never fully express how you feel about them, so cut yourself a break.
LET’S GET YOU IN THE MOOD…
Get a fresh piece of paper, or open a new word doc, or the notes app on your phone, as it’s
time to get started. Let’s shake off that writers’ block by asking you a few questions. When
you answer these questions, I want you to be specific. Don’t be too light on, I want some
detail. Also, keep it real and don’t make it all lovey-dovey, we all know life isn’t all sunshine
and rainbows. You might like to answer one question seriously, then go light-hearted with
the next. Balance is good!
- What was your first impression?
- When did you know you wanted to be together forever?
- What do you want to improve in yourself, to make you better for your other half?
- What are the little things they do for you that bring you joy?
- What have you learned because of them?
- Have you experienced any challenges together?
- What inspires you about them?
- How do you enjoy spending a weekend together?
- What does the future look like for you?
- Why do you want to get married?
- What opinions, goals, values do you share?
- What have you overcome together?
- What have you loved learning about them?
- What special quirk do you love about them?
- What annoying quirk do you forgive them for?
If you’ve answered all the above questions you have done the hardest part –
congratulations! Use this, and pick the bits which stand out and give the best insight into how you feel about your nearly-newly wed. These are the parts you want to give airtime in your
vows.
